This world is filled with amazing stories – and the best ones are how we’ve overcome something difficult. Everyone has a story within them that can bring us together. By sharing our experiences, we are working to show how united we all are. All of our struggles, while we each experience them differently, are not as unique as you may think.
With the No Evil Movement, I am humbled to feature women of all backgrounds & walks of life. I hope by diving deeper into who we are as individuals, we can come together and understand we are all in this together. We’re all amazing in our own ways – and a lot more similar than you might imagine.
What’s the 1 thing that keeps you up at night?
The one thing that keeps me up at night is my career. I’ve been working in digital marketing & social media for about 8 years now. I’m constantly seeking opportunities to further my career and build out my resume. Many may see this as a good thing, but I often wonder if I should spend more time enjoying life and collecting experiences.
Travel is the most important thing to me right now. My goal with my next career move is to provide myself with the financial freedom to see the world. I don’t want to spend my life behind a desk wondering what if?
What’s your biggest inspiration?
My biggest inspiration isn’t a person – it’s failure. Since I was little, I’ve always had a thirst for knowledge. By participating in class and by reading books, I knew I had the power to make myself better and understand more about the world. I also knew what it felt like when I hadn’t pushed myself hard enough to achieve something and failed. Those failures & feelings then became the reason why I would push myself to do better.
It’s not about being the most qualified person in the room or the most traditionally educated. I don’t have a fear of failure. But I know that I can succeed as long as I properly prepare for something. My mom has a simple saying, “If you don’t hear, you’ll feel.” That plays in my head all the time.
If you could go back in time at any point in your life, what words of advice would you give yourself?
When I was little and living in Brooklyn, I went to a performing arts middle school and had the opportunity to act, sing, and dance with the Metropolitan Opera House. At the time, I had no idea how big this was for someone with no formal training, but I relished every minute.
Shortly after that, my family decided to move to New Jersey. By making this move, I lost out on the opportunity to continue working with the MOH. I still wonder what would have happened if I had continued to excel in the performing arts – if it would have changed who I am now and where I am in life.
If I could speak to 10-year-old Jayelle, I’d encourage her to tell mom that she loved to sing and to stay in Brooklyn for a few more years to see what comes of it.
Which three products automatically make you feel confident?
CoverGirl Divine Wine – This lip color was recommended to me and prior to trying it out, I mostly wore chapstick and lip gloss. It automatically makes me feel bold and I love how it contrasts with my skin color. It’s also great because it stays on all day.
Ponds Moisturizing Cream – Surprisingly, I came across this little gem in the travel products section at Target and I haven’t looked back. Moisturizing is very important to my skincare regiment and this facial cream doesn’t leave my skin greasy or cause acne. If I decide to skip on the makeup for the day, I can moisturize with this product and still feel just as confident for the day.
Coconut Oil – Another product for moisturizing (and truly the king of moisturizers). I use coconut oil in my hair on a weekly basis. As a black woman, I have to keep dryness at bay to ensure that my hair is healthy. This includes deep conditions and a weekly scalp treatment with coconut oil. It also doesn’t hurt that I love everything coconut scented!
Talk about a difficult time in your life that you had to overcome. What was that experience like for you?
A few years ago, I moved back to New York for a job. Originally, I thought I was going to stay with my Dad in his house in Brooklyn until I had enough savings to consider moving out. Unfortunately, my Dad wouldn’t allow me to move in with him, but I knew that commuting to the city from NJ would eat up a lot of the money I was making at this job. Instead of sucking it up, I asked a friend to live with him and his brother in their apartment in Brooklyn.
Although it was no fault of theirs, I didn’t feel truly comfortable in the environment. They often had people over their house that I did not know and I would come home unable to truly relax from the long day at work. This uncertainty in the place I was living, coupled with the anger at my Dad for putting me into this situation, gave me a bad case of anxiety.
It became so crippling that I was unable to ride the subway to and from work. I often walked miles into the city just because being in the subway brought on such bad anxiety. I also then started drinking as a way to ease my mind from the anxiety – and I realized that I had to do something about it.
I bravely walked myself into a mental health clinic. Instead of prescribing me medication, they ask me to meet with a therapist once a week. The therapist really helped me understand the deeper issue causing my anxiety and gave me tips on how to combat it.
Soon, I was able to ride the subway again. I had never sought out mental health counseling of any type prior to this, but now I recommend it to anyone experiencing anxiety or depression.
Jayelle is 28 years old with a strong passion for music and marketing. Former resident of Brooklyn, she now resides near the Jersey Shore. When she’s not dancing the night away or developing campaign strategies for a living, she’s spending time with her girlfriend and family.